|I don't wanna go... don't make me GO!!!|
|Leaving the islands|
|Flying over the east coast! Officially back in the US!|
We still work. We just do it differently. And most of the time it's good. As you know, we've been through the ringer these last few months with boat repairs and maintenance that have been almost overwhelming. But throughout all of this, we've still been in control of our destiny. Well, as much as anyone ever really is anyway. We've been making our decisions based upon OUR plans. And considerable worry, preparation, and expense has gone into the making of those plans.
What IS this plan of which I speak? Long-story-short - we were going west. We joined a sailboat rally - the Suzie TOO Ocean Cruising Club Rally from Curaçao to Belize - and it starts this coming November and ends in April. We paid the club dues, we bought the cruising guides and we began to get our boat in shape for making the six month trek to new cruising grounds.
|Crossing the Harbor Bridge was surreal. How did I get here again???|
When we began cruising back in 2013, my daughter was living in our townhouse while finishing college. After graduation she moved to California and married a Navy man, leaving my mother living in our townhouse.
It was a good deal for all. The place was paid off so expenses were low. It was close to my brother's house so my mom could be a bigger part of his young children's lives, and it was in a very safe community. Having her there gave us the option of keeping the place until we were SURE we liked cruising! It allowed us to put off disposing of all our worldly goods while giving the housing market time to improve. For a while, everything was great. Until it wasn't.
|Always looking to be out in nature. The lake near my daughter's home!|
The luxury of putting off that final break from our former lives was no longer mine. I booked my flights and got Bruce ready for a month of bachelorhood while my mind spun out of control. So many things would have to be done. Instead of taking our time and working out the details, I had to think of everything FAST. I would have less than a month in the US during which I had to essentially close out our lives in Texas.
I had to move us to Florida where my firstborn lived. Voting, taxes, banking, everything had to be shifted. AND of course there was the STUFF! Thankfully, I've got a daughter that's vying for sainthood - I will never know what I did to deserve such a child - but she not only agreed to accompany me from Florida to Texas, but she would take a two week sabbatical from her home, business and her life in order to help me get the townhouse ready for sale.
As it turned out... it was I who helped HER! She was the steady one while I leaned more to wallowing and maudlin self pity. She kept us moving forward when I got bogged down with the discovery of each one of the thousands of lovingly collected treasures that told the story of our lives. Each piece of art or blanket made by a loved one no longer with us, each anniversary present or photo of us in a wonderful place, each piece of furniture chosen together and laden with joyful ghosts of times past - brought on new and more terrible waves of nostalgia. She kept us going when I wanted to break down and cry.
|My old beach at sunrise|
|Last Beach Walk|
|Kira just having fun!|
|Pelicans riding the updrafts where Bruce and I used to walk the seawall. So. Many. Times.|
The rented vehicle we were driving had only so much room. And much of it would be taken up by the three dacron sails that Bruce and I wanted to make sure got to the fishermen in Haiti. Ever since our visit there, we've wanted to get those sails to the Haitian people. They need so much and have so little, but with our donated sails, they can go out and fish to support their families and community. In the end, that was worth more to us than stacking another box of keepsakes at my daughter's house. And it helped my heart gain a little bit of ground - putting into perspective the true value of so many things we have, while others have so little.
|This is where I got the strength...|
Lucky for me, we had to EAT! Meals were the one time we could legitimately take a break, and if it included visiting with friends - all the better. We went out to our old Yacht Club's new place - a boat! There were lots of new faces but plenty of old ones and everyone made us feel so welcome.
|The Bayfront where we used to sail|
My dear departed friend Mimi's husband and his sister dropped in on us one afternoon and Charlie returned the following evening. Time stood still as we sat and talked and reminisced about her. My heart still breaks for her and it did me good to be able to talk to Charlie about her. No-one will ever fill the hole in my heart that she left, and now I'm leaving our neighbourhood where her ghost still roams in my mind.
Friends dropped by and brought food and wine because we couldn't leave for waiting on strangers to come at all hours to take away the house full of furniture. Melissa put each piece on Facebook Marketplace and orchestrated all the wheeler-dealing. I couldn't have done it. She was efficient and final. It all had to go, no matter that it was for nothing more than the price of the rental car for the two weeks. Yes, that's right. All my worldly goods were given away but for the price of a rental car.
The days dwindled and it seemed like there would be no way it would all get done. Melissa was pushing herself hard to trim a day or two so that she could get back to her life in Florida. It was all I could do to keep up the pace.
We met with the realtor and the paperwork was signed. Then by some miracle, everything was suddenly done. The painting was finished, the new carpet installed and two additional days of hard cleaning were behind us. Then the last of the furniture disappeared. We literally closed the front door on people loading my bedroom furniture and drove out the garage in back, never to return. The few treasures in the back of the Explorer were all that's left of my 50+ years. A pile of photo albums, some baby books, a few medals and some things I thought we could use on the boat. And those sails. That's it. A life.
I have no pictures of the process. I was working too hard and emotionally detached so taking photos was not happening. I did hastily take some short video of the place just before we closed the door for the last time. Not great, but it's all I have of the house that was once our home.
The house looked good, if somewhat lonely. I guess it's not too late to change my mind, but really it is. That ship sailed.
|One last look back at Corpus Christi, the city of my birth.|
|Eyes front! No looking back! The iconic Harbor Bridge was festive but my mood was somber|
I know I've had a lot longer to get rid of my stuff than many cruisers do. It has been a luxury and it would have been nice to have had our leisure to go through it all and really take care in disposing of our treasures. But I have to say that already the pain is receding (as long as I don't think about it), and as brutally abrupt as it was, I'm glad that it's done now.
Driving away from the land of my birth was hard too. The fields, the Bay, the wide open spaces that are my Texas home will go on without me, as I will without them. I have to turn my thoughts to the future. The house will sell and Bruce and I will be truly free. With our girls living in other states, we weren't going back there anyway really.
|Driving into a rainbow is a good omen, right?|
The day arrived when my daughter put me on a plane back to my home. The month behind me was a blur, but my boat with my husband and my cat were waiting for me. I couldn't wait to get back to where I belonged and maybe have some R&R to finish processing.
|Leaving the US again - for how long? Who knows!|
Oh, and the plan? Well we aren't going west anymore. The pressure is off. Until a new plan rises to the surface, we're just going to enjoy the Eastern Caribbean until we're done cruising.... then, who knows! We're FREE!